Forgiving for the Gospel, part 3 (Philemon v4-7)

Today we are moving along with Paul into a new thought.  He is still in his introduction, but, in verse 4 through 7 he moves from identifying himself and those whom he wanted to read the letter, and now he moves on to praise Philemon.  This was the common way of writing letters in that day, and, you can see this format in nearly all of Paul’s letters.  The praise was not simply a formality however, and, Paul wasn’t being fake about his commendation of the man.  He meant it.  It’s not like Paul to flatter people to get what he wants.  He is always honest, and he is as quick to commend someone as he is to constructively criticize. 

I was struck by this this past week.  We shouldn’t be fake in our praise of people.  In my prayer journal for the church I have begun to write down next to your names the things that I think are commendable about you.  So rather than just requests and issues going on in your lives I am also taking time now to praise God for the things about you that encourage me. 

By doing this I am more conscientious of how each of you refreshes me as a Christian and a pastor.  And that is the theme of the sermon today:  “A Refreshing Christian”.  Paul says in verse 7 to Philemon, “Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you, brother, have refreshed the hearts of the saints. 

Refreshed comes from a Greek military term meaning to come to a rest after a long march.  It was to take a break from the work you were doing in order to find some R&R.  It’s the water cups at various intervals in a marathon.  It’s the feeling of being ready to go back to work after a good vacation.  To be refreshed refers not so much to the break taken as it does to the effect it has on you.  It’s the kind of refreshment that brings rejuvenation, motivation and readiness to get back to the task.    Today we’re going to look at what made Philemon so refreshing, and we will find 3 points for ourselves that help make us a refreshing Christian.

#1:  A Refreshing Christian creates an Atmosphere of Appreciation (v4, 7)
            First of all, a Refreshing Christian creates an Atmosphere of Appreciation.  Notice how Paul talks about Philemon in verse 4, “I always thank my God as I remember you in my prayers”.  Then notice verse 7, “Your love has given me great joy and encouragement…”  If Philemon was in a church, then there would be an atmosphere of appreciation.  Philemon made other Christians feel things like joy and encouragement and a sense of being loved and cared for.  They knew what it was to be refreshed by him and to be able to get back up with a renewed motivation to live for Christ.  Each of them could share a personal story of how Philemon was there for them. How did that make Paul and these Christians feel about Philemon?  They were thankful for him, and, I’m sure their prayers were filled with “thank-you’s” to God for giving them a man like Philemon.

            There is another side to this point.  On one hand we should strive to refresh others in a way that makes them thankful to God.  But, on the other hand we should appreciate those who refresh us.  But don’t miss this point:  Paul is grateful for a man who is not directly benefiting Paul, but, the fact that Philemon is actively serving other Christians with love is a huge encouragement to Paul.  It’s much like when as parents we hear our children in the other room sharing with one another without any interference from us.  It makes us grateful when we witness the kindness of someone towards someone else.  We aren’t only grateful to the Lord for what others do for us.

Application:  Does the love and service of other Christians give me joy and encouragement?  I have encouraged you to start a blessing list in the past to help you be more thankful for what God is doing in your life.  I want to encourage you to expand that list by adding another category:  how other Christians are blessing other Christians.  The first list focuses on how you are blessed.  The 2nd list focuses on how other Christians bless others besides you.  This will train us to be grateful not necessarily for what people do for us, but, to be grateful that Christians are actively blessing each other.  It creates an atmosphere of appreciation. 

#2:  A Refreshing Christian is Acknowledged for their Faith in Jesus Christ (v5a)
            Secondly, a Refreshing Christian is Acknowledged for their Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.   Notice what Paul says in verse 5, “because I hear about your faith in the Lord Jesus…”  Verse 5 is the cause of verse 4.  In other words, Paul thanks God for Philemon all the time (verse 4) because he has heard about Philemon’s faith in Jesus Christ (v5). 

            This man had a reputation.  He was known as someone who had faith in Jesus Christ.  And his faith strengthened the faith of others, like what Romans 1:12 says, “that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith.”  This was a man who I believe may have been a candidate for being inducted into the faith Hall of Fame.  If ever a NT Faith Hall of Fame is created, Philemon will be there.

It is not unimportant that faith is the first thing Paul lists about Philemon.  Faith is what counts.  Hebrews 1:6 says, “Without faith it is impossible to please God, because whoever comes to Him must believe He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.”  Jesus said in Luke 18:8, “When the Son of Man comes will He find faith on earth?”  And it is only faith that can save someone’s soul.  Romans 1:16-17 says, “...”, and then 3:22, “…” and then 6:23, “…” and then Romans 10:9-10, “….”  The testimony of the whole NT is that a person can only be saved by faith in Jesus Christ.  Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “….”

Application:  Are we known by others for our faith in Jesus Christ?  Are we known by our Christian brothers and sisters for our faith?  Are we known by the unbelievers around us as someone who believes in Jesus Christ?  Does God know us as someone with great faith?  Without faith it is impossible to please God. Let us be known for our faith.  Let us cause each other to praise God for the faith we have in our Lord

#3:  A Refreshing Christian is Affectionate towards all Believers (v5b)
            Thirdly, a Refreshing Christian is Affectionate towards all Believers.  Notice verse 5, “because I hear about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints.”  These two are mentioned often together.  Colossians 1:4 says, “because we have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and of the love you have for all the saints”.  Ephesians 1:15, “ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints”. 

            The reason they are mentioned together is because there is a relationship between faith in Jesus Christ and loving Christians.  Faith translates into love.  Galatians 5:6 says, “The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.”  Faith in Christ is expressed by love for Christians.  We can say it inversely too:  Love for Christians is the expression of our faith in Christ.  So, in Paul’s mind, faith inside is made visible through love outside.

            Philemon had a deep affection for Christians.  Paul is commending him, which means it was more than just sentimental love.  His feelings were involved no doubt, but it was that self-sacrificing, servant-heart, humble spirit kind of love that made him want to make sure others were doing well.  It’s that gut-love that Paul says he had in Philippians 1:7-8, “It is right for me to feel this way about all of you since I have you in my heart…God can testify how I long for all of you with the affection of Christ Jesus”.  The word “affection” there in the Greek means bowels, guts, stomach, which in the Greek mind was the place where the deepest and most powerful affections came from.  That’s the kind of “love” Philemon had “for all the saints”. 

That’s also the kind of love we should have for all of each other.  First Peter 1:22 says, “Love one another deeply from the heart.”  One another means Christian to Christians (C2C).  It seems today that we hear a lot about loving the world and loving non-Christians but not a lot about loving each other.  It is completely reversed what the NT says.  Yes, love all of mankind, but, I challenge you to read the NT and see for yourself if every command to love is not given to Christians to love Christians.  While the Church majors on loving the world today, the NT is just the opposite:  majoring on loving Christians.  The reason is because our love for each other should make anyone who sees it want to be a part of it.  John 13:34-35, “A new command I give you:  Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” 

Enlarging our love for each other.

#4:  A Refreshing Christian Actively shares their Faith (v6)
            Fourthly, a Refreshing Christian Actively Shares their Faith.  Notice verse 6, “I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ.”  The wording of the NIV has always made me think of this as a classic evangelism verse:  “sharing your faith”.  But, as I studied this last week I learned that this is not primarily an evangelism verse.  This verse refers first and foremost to the fellowship among Christians.

The idea here is that we share our life together as Christians because of our mutual faith in Christ.  We have all been brought together into a relationship with Christ and with one another.  God intends for us to have relationships with each other and in the context of those relationships we share with each other all the blessings we have received from God. 

Illustration:  Let’s use an illustration.  Every year the Jensen’s grow a huge garden out at their house.  And every year they share out of the abundance that grows up in their garden.  Many of us have received large helpings of potatoes, tomatoes, carrots, and more that grew in their garden.  They share it because they have so much but more so because they enjoy sharing it with others.

Each of us are like gardens where the Lord has planted seeds for all sorts of fruits and vegetables to grow.  He wants to see these seeds grow into the fruit of the Holy Spirit, the fruit of righteousness in our lives, and He wants to see us sharing with each other the things that have been put in our garden.  We’re not talking about material wealth.  We are talking about the spiritual wealth that is ours in Christ.  Colossians 2:1-3 would relate directly to this point.  Turn there with me and lets read, “….”

We are rich in the faith and out of those riches we are to share with each other for the benefit of one another.  Sharing our faith is not evangelism towards unbelievers, it’s the relationships with each other where we share all that we have received from Christ:  joy, kindness, love, wisdom, encouragement, comfort, peace, grace, mercy and on and on. We show what we’ve been given by giving it to others.

What have we received from the Lord?  Do we share it with each other?  All of us belong to Christ.  All of us belong to each other.  All of us have been blessed with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus.  All of us have each received a gift from the Holy Spirit to minister to one another and build each other up in the faith.  This “sharing our faith means we all share in the blessings that come to those who have faith.  Let us be Refreshing Christians who actively share all that is ours in the faith.

Conclusion:
            We must see this section in the larger context of the letter.  In this letter Philemon was being asked to forgive Onesimus and accept him fully as a new brother in Christ.  In these few verses Philemon was commended as a man who refreshed others.  Paul wanted him to refresh Onesimus by offering him a complete pardon from his transgressions. 

God was teaching Philemon new depths of knowing Christ’s forgiveness by offering it to someone else.  Philemon would be more like Christ the more he forgave.

But there was another side:  God intended to use Philemon to teach Onesimus the depths of God’s grace.  The goal was that at the end of it all, Onesimus would be able to say about Philemon, “I always thank my God for you in all my prayers, because your love, my brother has refreshed my heart.”

Lesson:  Showing mercy and forgiveness refreshes others.  Withholding mercy and forgiveness burdens others.

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