Turn to 2 Corinthians 2. While you are turning there I will tell you a
story. Illustration: It was a different Sunday than usual. The leaders stood up and rather than a sermon
that morning they read a lengthy letter to all of us in the church. Nobody made a sound as every ear heard every
word that the leaders read out loud. Even
the babies were quiet. There had been
trouble in our church – big troubles.
Some of us didn’t know what we were going to do. But one man did. It was the man who originally founded our
church and led us to believe in Jesus Christ.
It was the man who had written the letter we were now listening to. His name was Paul, and he was what is called
an “Apostle of Jesus Christ”.
Illustration: One of the joys we are finding in using the Family Worship plans in our home is to listen to our children learn great songs. To hear their little voices singing lifts you right up. But there is nothing better for your ears when they spontaneously start singing throughout the day. The song that Reese requests a lot is Amazing Grace. And as little ones start to learn the songs its humorous to hear them get certain words wrong. For instance, when she first learned the song she would say, “Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wrench like me.” She’s got it right these days but the other day while playing on the floor she sang what I think is the Pharisee version, “Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like you”. I think someone’s wife looked up from her book and said, “I think she’s singing to you”.
This was his second letter to us in less than
a year and the first one had sent shockwaves throughout the church. Had we all not been absolutely convinced of
his deep love for us, I am sure the severity and sternness with which he wrote
last year would have had a very negative effect. But, after the leaders had read that first
letter our church was changed for the better.
We started doing what he told us to do.
I guess tough love can go a long way to help people get back on track –
and we needed it. Apparently he heard we
were following his first letter because now we sat in church that morning
listening to his follow up letter. He
was commending us and expressing his love for us again.
One of the biggest changes we made that stands
out to me was when we had to follow Paul’s instruction to put a guy out of our
fellowship. I won’t name his name, but,
everyone knows him. He had done something
very heinous, I won’t name what he did, but Paul said in his first letter that
even the pagans would be shocked over his behavior – which is saying something. It was hard to do but after he wouldn’t
acknowledge what he did the man was forbidden from attending church and we
stopped socializing with him altogether.
He had nobody. We all felt for
him, but, we knew we had to do it.
It was one of those situations in life where
you say you wouldn’t want to go through it again but you wouldn’t change a
thing because the results were amazing. The
man had a change of heart. He realized what he did and was truly sorry – we
could all see it. But now our problem
was we weren’t sure what to do with him.
Do we let him back in or keep him out?
Do we start having him over for get togethers again or do we continue to
keep separated from him? Can we accept
his friend on FB yet? Thankfully, Paul
wrote this 2nd letter to us in Corinth. In it he tells us what to do with this
repentant man. Let’s listen in as the
leaders read this portion of 2 Corinthians 2:5-11….[Read]
What does this have to do with Philemon? Just like the Corinthians were in a position
to forgive, Philemon was also in a position to forgive. But it wasn’t just Philemon that Paul had in
mind. Just like the whole church at
Corinth was instructed in what to do with the man in their midst, Paul speaks
to many more people beyond Philemon regarding what to do with the man Onesimus
in their midst. Today we are going to
ask and answer the question: “Why does Paul include all these other people
in this issue when it seemed primarily an issue between Philemon, Onesimus and
Paul?”
Well as we meet each person you will see why
Paul included them.
Apphia
Paul wants to get the right people involved
in this issue. First we see a woman
named “Apphia”, whom Paul refers to as “our sister.” I agree with many commentators that this
would have been Philemon’s wife. For one
thing, she wouldn’t have been a church leader or pastor because Paul taught
that men were to occupy those roles. Since
she is mentioned, and mentioned immediately after Philemon, it seems logical
that she was his wife. As his wife she
had a definite interest in Onesimus returning.
Let me offer 2 important points here
First, in that day the wife had charge of the
slaves. The day to day running of the
home was managed by the wife and this included overseeing the household
slaves. Onesimus was not only returning
to Philemon, but to Apphia. Therefore,
Apphia’s attitude towards Onesimus would be just as important – if not more important
than Philemon’s. And since Onesimus
would probably see her more than he would Philemon, she potentially could make
his life miserable.
The second reason Paul would have addressed
Apphia is because of her influence on Philemon.
Behind every good man of God is an even better woman of God. As a general rule, when men are great,
usually they have a Proverbs 31 kind of
women behind them. Apphia would have
no doubt been a very supportive and helpful partner with her husband in all
that he did for the church. She may have
been the one who coaxed Philemon into opening the home to the church, probably
also hosting travelling missionaries, and providing support to people in need. If Apphia was this kind of devoted and godly
wife, then Paul may have counted on her being gracious and forgiving, and her influence
would be crucial to win her husband’s forgiveness of Onesimus.
Application: Wives, do you help your husbands make godly
choices or hinder them? Can you be
trusted to approach life decisions from a Biblical, Christ-honoring
perspective? I choose to believe that
Apphia was someone Paul saw as a key player in swaying Philemon to doing the
godly thing that Paul was asking.
Archippus
Next we see after Apphia Paul includes a man
named Archippus. Paul calls him, “our
fellow soldier.” Some have said
that this is Philemon and Apphia’s son, but, I agree with many others who see
him as the pastor of the church that met in Philemon’s home. Archippus was much more likely to be the guy who
was teaching God’s word, leading the congregation, caring for the flock and
doing the work of pastoral ministry. Why
do I believe that? Three reasons.
First of all, his placement here in the
introduction suggests it. The fact that
Archippus is specifically mentioned by name means he must have had some
important role to play in the life of that church. If he is the pastor, it makes sense for him
to be mentioned after Philemon and his wife as they are the ones primarily
offended by Onesimus. But notice that
Archippus is mentioned before the church at large, indicating a leadership
position. Paul’s attention goes from
Philemon’s household to the household of God – the Church. He addresses Philemon as the leader of his
own home, and, then Archippus as the leader of God’s church that met in
Philemon’s home.
Secondly, Paul calls him a “fellow
soldier”. Paul only uses the
phrase “fellow soldier” to refer to
official, recognized church leaders who work hard at their jobs. Epaphroditus was a missionary sent by the
Philippians to help Paul while in prison.
He said of him in Philippians 2:25, “I think it is necessary to send
back to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker and fellow soldier.” In 2 Timothy 2:3 Paul gives advice to his
pastoral pupil Timothy, “Endure hardship with us like a good soldier
of Christ Jesus.” And I believe
when Paul calls Archippus a “fellow soldier” it is because he was the pastor of
the church meeting in Philemon’s home.
But while these reasons suggest Archippus is
the pastor, it is Colossians 4:17 that I believe makes it certain. In Colossians 4:17 Archippus is mentioned
specifically, and he is mentioned in a way that strongly suggests he was
entrusted with some official ministry responsibility and position. [Turn to Colossians 4:17] Remember that Paul wrote Colossians at the
same time he wrote Philemon (probably Colossians first then Philemon), and,
that this whole group of people (Philemon, Onesimus, Apphia, Archippus, etc)
are all from the area of Colosse. At the
end of his letter to Colossians, Paul is mentioning many people by name with
little notes for them. In Colossians
4:17 we see the very last person Paul has a message for: “Tell Archippus: ‘See to it that you complete the work you
have received in the Lord.’” Archippus
had some official commission in ministry and probably it had to do with the
church that met in Philemon’s house. Now
we can see why Paul addresses him as well:
As Philemon’s pastor he would be a key person to influence Philemon in
making a decision to please the Lord.
Application: We need to surround ourselves with the right
people if we want to live for Christ. If
we want to be godly, righteous, and wise, then those are the kinds of people we
need to have in our lives. Proverbs
13:20 says, “Those who walk with the wise grow wise” and 1 Cor. 15:33 says “Bad
company corrupts good character.”
Paul wanted to surround Philemon with everyone who would help him do the
right thing in forgiving Onesimus. Paul
knew that a godly wife, a godly pastor and a godly church can be a tremendous
help in helping someone make godly choices.
So here’s our challenge: Do we
listen to the godly people in our life?
Do we have godly people in our life?
Are the people who are most influential to us the godliest people we
know? Are we a godly church that creates
an environment for people to grow in godliness?
The Church at
Philemon’s House
Lastly, in verse 2 Paul addresses the whole
church that was meeting in Philemon’s home, again notice verse 2, “and
to the church that meets in your home.”
So this letter is not just for Philemon, but for the whole church that
gathered under his roof. Paul wanted the
whole church to be informed about the amazing events in Onesimus’ life after he
ran away because they have a role to play when he returns as well.
First of all Paul simply wanted them to
understand they were going to have a new member in their congregation. Therefore Paul wanted the whole church to
understand how to treat Onesimus.
Secondly, Paul wanted the church to follow
Philemon’s example of accepting Onesimus as a brother and forgiving him. Philemon was a respected man and many would
follow his lead in matters with Onesimus.
This highlights for us a very important application: we need to be Conscious of how our decisions
affect other Christians. Philemon’s
decision about how he would treat Onesimus was going to set an example for
everyone else: his wife, the other
Christians, the other slaves, and other slave masters. He was center stage with an opportunity to
teach others about God’s grace and forgiveness by his own example. Many would use his example as a reference for
how to act in their own life. As
Christians we don’t live for ourselves and ourselves only. With wisdom, balance, and love we take into
consideration how we will affect others with our choices.
Thirdly, the church would provide some
indirect pressure on Philemon to go easy on him. Paul knows human nature: we are more likely to do what’s right when we
are doing it in front of others. Whether
anyone in the church actually said anything to him, the fact that they were
watching him would be pressure enough.
But there is a fourth reason the whole church
was involved. There is to be unity in
the act of forgiveness. When the
offended person forgives the offender, the rest of the church should forgive
too. If Philemon forgives Onesimus the
NT teaches that the rest of the church is to forgive. Listen to some passages that present this
principle. Back in 2 Corinthians 2:10
Paul said “If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him.” Paul’s decision to forgive an offender was
based on whether or not the church had
forgiven him. In other words, Paul
honored the church’s authority by standing with them: if they had forgiven then he also forgave. If they did not forgive then he did not
forgive.
This is
incredible. But what is more incredible
is that Paul was mirroring what Jesus said.
In Matthew 18 we see the instructions Jesus gives the steps for carrying
out church discipline with an unrepentant member. At the very end the Lord says to involve the
whole church by informing them of the member’s sin and then having them pursue
that member to persuade him to repent.
In verse 17 Jesus said, “If he does not listen to the church then
treat him like you would a pagan or tax collector”. Translation:
“Consider him unclean and separate
yourselves from him and have absolutely nothing to do with him.”
Now, if you think that is intense, listen to
the very next words in verse 18, “Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in
heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” Those words are directly related to
what Jesus just said in the previous verse about church discipline. This means that when the Church follows God’s
word in church discipline, and officially cuts a member off from all
fellowship, the church has made a binding decision. Here’s where it gets intense: Jesus says that what is bound on earth by the
Church will be bound in heaven.
Apparently God will honor the decision of the Church when the Church
follows His word and if the Church cuts off fellowship on earth than heaven
cuts off fellowship as well. But the
opposite is true too, if the Church forgives someone and receives them back
into fellowship then heaven honors that decision as well. Jesus made very similar statements in John
20:23, “If you forgive anyone his sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not
forgiven.”
What
does all this mean? It means that there
is unity in forgiveness. Just like
heaven will honor the Church’s decision to forgive, and just like Paul will
honor the Corinthian church’s decision to forgive, the church was supposed to
honor Philemon’s decision to forgive Onesimus.
Would Philemon forgive him? Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Could Philemon
forgive Onesimus just like God had forgiven him? One of the dangers of the Christian life is
to withhold from others what God has freely given us. Sometimes in the face of forgiveness we
forget that we have been forgiven much.
When we lose sight of our own debt we lose the ability to cancel the
debt of others. We start to see all the
faults of others and forget all about our own.
Illustration: One of the joys we are finding in using the Family Worship plans in our home is to listen to our children learn great songs. To hear their little voices singing lifts you right up. But there is nothing better for your ears when they spontaneously start singing throughout the day. The song that Reese requests a lot is Amazing Grace. And as little ones start to learn the songs its humorous to hear them get certain words wrong. For instance, when she first learned the song she would say, “Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wrench like me.” She’s got it right these days but the other day while playing on the floor she sang what I think is the Pharisee version, “Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like you”. I think someone’s wife looked up from her book and said, “I think she’s singing to you”.
Remember
our applications today: 1) Wives, be a
godly influence in your husband’s decisions, 2) Surround yourself with godly
people to help you make godly decisions, and 3) we need to be willing to
forgive.
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