Ephesians 6:1-3
Children Who Honor Their Parents
Children Who Honor Their Parents
Our title today
is “Children Who Honor Their Parents”.
Today we are looking into the Biblical teaching that children are to
honor their parents.
This sermon is
primarily directed at our children. Next
week we’ll look at parenting. But, parents
you can benefit today by understanding something very important. It is very important to teach your children
to honor you as parents. Possessions,
privilege, comfort, and ease of life are not what should be the greatest gifts
you desire to give your children. If
these are the hopes and dreams for our children then we will create
materialistic human beings who believe they are entitled to everything. They will grow up without any sense of
personal responsibility and if they have any character at all it will be
weak. We should not wish for the
successes of this world for them, or that nothing bad ever happens. No, as parents, we should discipline, train,
teach and pray that their lives reflect the wisdom and righteousness of
God. Fundamental to that end is teaching
our children to honor and obey us.
Let us look at 7 Traits of Children Who Honor
Parents.
First, children
who honor their parents because doing so is Right.
Notice verse 1 where Paul says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for
this is right.” The first reason
why you as a child should honor and obey your parents is because it is
right. What do we mean it is “right”?
We mean that it is right in the
eyes of God. And doing what is right
in God’s eyes should motivate you.
Colossians 3:20 says, “Children obey your parents in everything for
this is pleases the Lord.”
Children, over and over again the command for you to obey your parents
is given along with the assurance that doing so is pleasing to God. He looks favorably upon you when you choose
to obey your parents because you are conscious of Him. You have to care about what is right. You have to have the kind of heart that cares
about pleasing God. If you do, then
honoring your parents will be important to you.
Honor your parents because it is right to do so.
Second, children
who honor their parents do so because they recognize Parents are the instituted
authority in the home. God judged Israel by letting them be ruled by
children. Isaiah 3:6 says, “I
will make boys their officials; mere children will govern them.” Since they rejected God’s ways and completely
upended them, He was going to give them over to what they wanted – a complete
reversal of God’s order society. And from
beginning to end God is watchful of how we respond to various authorities
(i.e., government, church leaders, husbands, employers, parents). God takes seriously whether a son or daughter
honors their parents. Honor your parents
because you recognize they are the authority God has instituted in the home.
Thirdly, children
who honor their parents do so because they follow the example of Jesus Christ. Let
me ask a question: Who is Jesus
Christ? Jesus Christ is God’s Son. And when God’s Son came into the world He
obeyed His Father in heaven perfectly.
Jesus said in John 14:31 “the world must learn that I love the Father
and that I do exactly what my Father has commanded Me.” He said it again in John 12:49-50, “For I
did not speak of my own accord, for the Father who sent me commanded me what to
say and how to say it. So whatever I say
is just what the Father has told me to say.” Everything it means to honor your parents is
perfectly modeled for us in Jesus Christ.
He honored His Father in heaven perfectly.
You know what
that means? It means that He perfectly
obeyed His earthly parents as well. Luke
2:51 says, “Then He [Jesus] went down with Joseph and Mary to Nazareth
and was obedient to them.”
Listen, if any child ever had a reason not to obey His parents, it was
Jesus. He is God in the flesh. He is the Creator. Joseph and Mary, His earthly parents, are His
creation. He is perfect, holy and
sinless. They were part of the human
race, therefore, sinners, and, and imperfect.
But, here Jesus is, God appearing in the flesh, submitting Himself to
them as His human parents. If He obeyed
His parents, children, obey yours.
Fourthly,
children who honor their parents do so because God commands it. In
Leviticus 19:3 God said, “Each of you must respect his father
and mother.” In Deuteronomy
27:16 it says, “Cursed is the man who dishonors his father or his mother.” It is of great importance to Him. How important is it? While Israel had over 600 commandments from
God, there are only 10 commandments that God etched onto stone with His own
hand. One of those ten, the 5th
to be exact, is that children are to honor their parents. Exodus 20:12 says, “Honor your father and mother so
that you may live long in the land your God is giving you.” It is repeated again in Deuteronomy 5:16, “Honor
your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, so that
you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the LORD your
God is giving you.” This
commandment makes the top ten.
But what makes
this even more important is that if you look at the structure of the 10
commandments you see that the first 4 commands pertain to a person’s relationship
with God. The rest of the 6 commands pertain
to a person’s relationship with others.
Now notice this. As soon as God
gives the first four commandments, He begins to list the commandments which govern
our relationship with other people. What
is the first commandment that God gives governing our relationship with
others? “Honor your father and your mother”
(Ex. 20:12; Dt. 5:16).
This is extremely
important to note here: Honoring parents
comes before the commandments not to murder, steal, commit adultery,
give false testimony or covet. The first
commandment God wanted to put down that governs how we relate to others was how
we relate to our parents. This indicates
that perhaps the most important element of social order is that there is proper
order in the home. Proper order in the
home will produce order in society. If
you want to break a society, break the home.
This is why the descriptions of the last days - when human society will
be at its worst in history - includes the rebellion of children. Turn to 2 Timothy 3 with me. Paul describes what it will be like in the
last days [Read v1-4].
I want to show
you one more description of the last days.
Turn with me to Romans 1:28. Paul
has said that when people reject God and worship idols they become sexually
immoral (v22-24). When they persist,
they go even further and engage in homosexuality (v25-27). [Read verse 28-32]. There are over 30 items on this list of
sins. These are what develop when a
society rejects God. Right in the middle
of all of them in verse 30 it says that they disobey their parents. Who are “THEY”? They are those who suppress the truth in
their wickedness (v18), who refused to glorify God as God (v22), who exchanged
the truth of God for images (v23), and those who worshipped and served created
things rather than the Creator (v25).
What happens when “they” do that?
They go off the deep end, as Paul describes here. Look at the condition of this society that
Paul describes. It’s a wreck. And in the middle of this wreck we see that
the order in the home is destroyed:
they disobey their parents.
What I want to
show here is that God considers disobedience to parents to be as serious a sin
as he does these other sins. Children
who honor parents do so because God commands it.
Fifthly, children
who honor their parents do not want to remind God of His enemy. I want to show here that rebellion against
parents is not reflective of Christ, but, of Satan. Who was the first to rebel? Satan.
Who was Adam and Eve’s Father?
God was. He created them. They weren’t “born” the way that we all have
been. They were directly formed into
existence by God’s hand – God was their Father.
As their father He gave them the one command. In Genesis 3 we see that they disobeyed their
Father and in doing so dishonored Him.
But who was active in that whole scene to deceive them, tempt them, and
lead them into rebelling against God?
Satan. He was created by God, God
was also his Father because He created Satan.
He rebelled against God and he does so still to this day. He blasphemes God, he lies about God, he
aggressively dishonors God and wherever you see this it is a reflection of the
wicked work of Satan.
What am I getting
at? I am getting at this: It is a disgraceful thing for children to
dishonor their parents. For a child’s
conduct towards his parents to mirror Satan’s conduct towards God is
disgraceful. The home is the primary
place where God’s righteousness and truth are to be on display. When children honor their parents they
reflect Jesus Christ. When a child
dishonors his parents he reflects Satan.
God is pleased when you honor your parents. It is a respectable and venerable sight to
watch a child voluntarily submit to his parents. In order to have proper order in the home
children must honor their parents.
Sixthly,
children honor who honor their parents do so because they know they will be
Better Off. Notice verse 3, “………….” It is a rule in Scripture that God blesses
obedience. He does not bless
disobedience – including rebellion against parents. One of the reasons God judged Israel and sent
them off into Babylonian captivity was because society had deteriorated so much
that the norm was children revolting against their parents. Ezekiel 22:7 is part of a long list of sins
God is listing against Israel, and right there He says, “In you they have treated their
father and mother with contempt”.
As a matter of fact, in Deuteronomy 21:18-21 the Law provided that
extremely rebellious and disgraceful children could be stoned.
But,
as displeased as He is, God is equally as pleased with children honoring
parents. So much so that we see two
blessings attached to such honor: a
better life and a longer life. Warren
Wiersbe says this:
“Paul does not mean that everyone who died
young dishonored his parents. He was stating a principle: when children obey
their parents in the Lord, they will escape a good deal of sin and danger and
thus avoid the things that could threaten or shorten their lives. But life is
not measured only by quantity of time. It is also measured by quality of
experience. God enriches the life of the obedient child no matter how long he
may live on the earth. Sin always robs us; obedience always enriches us.
Children who
honor parents do so because they know they will be better for it.
Seventh
and Lastly, children who honor their parents Obey them. Notice what Paul says here in the passage in Ephesians
6:1 “…………..” The Greek word for “obey”
is hupakouo. It’s a word that means to
submit to, like putting yourself under another person’s authority.
This word is
different than the word Paul used to describe a wife’s submission to her
husband. The word Paul used for a wife
meant that she was to submit to her husband, but, it was a word that conveyed
she is an equal with her him. The word
used for children however is different and it means the submission of someone
who is not equal with the person they are submitting to. While Paul never uses this word to describe
wives and husbands, it is the word he uses for children submitting to parents.
What does it mean
to obey? It means to do what they
say. Live to please them. Recognize they are the authority and Submit
yourself to their authority (5:21). Keep
an attitude of submission towards them.
Keep yourself in proper rank. So
long as you are under their roof you are under their rules. If you are dependent on them you are
obligated to them. Do what they
say.
Don’t
spend your days disrespecting your parents, revolting against them, lying,
defying their authority or otherwise challenging them. God gives government the sword (Rom 13:3-4)
but He gives parents the rod (Pvb. 13:24; 19:18; 22:15; 23:13-14;
29:15,17).
Love
them. Seek to please them. Seek to please God.
Conclusion:
The Greatest act of obedience was by Jesus
Christ. He obeyed His Father in heaven
perfectly. When the greatest pressure
ever to be faced by anyone was upon Him in the garden, Jesus Christ prayed, “Father,
if it is possible for this to be any other way….yet not My will but Yours”.
Not my will, father. Your will Father.
Have you thought
about the magnitude in which those words changed history? The obedience of Jesus Christ to His Father
has changed the course of human history.
He obeyed His Father, willingly, voluntarily, by going to the
cross. That was His Father’s will for
Him. And it was His will for
Himself.
He laid down His
own life upon the cross to bear the burden of the whole world. That burden is the sins of the whole
world. He died there upon a cross for
our sins. That was His mission for
coming into the world. That was what the
Father sent Him for. That was what He
came for. And now, human history is
changed forever. Now, men and women have
the way of salvation opened up for them.
Jesus died so that we can live.
Jesus took the punishment for our sins so that we can be pardoned. God gave up His only Son so that He could
adopt us as His Sons and daughters.
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